Your Best Friend?
The dawning Age of
Aquarius is going to change the way we think about two words we often use
today, "best friend." As I passed through life, at one time or another, I had a best friend. We all do.
A best friend is
someone we really enjoy being with, laugh with, cry with, hang out
with, have common interests with, and really feel good with. Spending time
with our best friend is never boring. And it seems we can talk to her or him
for hours on end, and always find it interesting, fun, and mentally
Most importantly, our best friend never makes fun of our most
intimate thoughts, because we trust them, and they respect and
honor our feelings. In the end, best friends have a deep and profound love
for one another. And they should. They are very close soul
Over the years your
best friend has usually been the same member of your
sex. When I grew up, it was unheard of for a guy to have a girl best
friend. As a matter of fact, it would have been considered different or
weird, and not very manly.
For that matter, I can't think of one
instance in which I knew of two individuals in relationship who referred
to their partner as their best friend. All of that is changing. We are
entering the early stages of a New Age; an age which will support the concept of partners
being best friends.
relationships are in flux and upheaval, whether they are based on marriage
otherwise. There is a reason for this.
We currently find ourselves in an awkward
twilight zone between the Piscean and Aquarian Ages. That is the cause of the high
divorce rates and failure of partnerships,
which are frequently based upon the influence of the ego. Let there be
no doubt, ego is the cause of most broken relationships, and Aquarius
will not lend its support this kind of behavior.
The majority of
partnerships entered into during the 2,160-year age of Pisces were built upon
fear and physical survival. That is why jealousy, control, anger, expectations,
needs, clinging, insecurity, dependency, judgments, ownership and other ego-rooted
actions were so common to these traditional unions.
As one might imagine, it would be
difficult to develop a best friend, romantic partnership under such conditions. I suspect that is why many individuals
today have a best friend relationship with someone outside of their own coupling.
One of the qualities
of a best friend relationship is the ability for it to endure
and strengthen over time. This is rare because the more time there is for
friendship, the more time there is for ego to disrupt it.
Think about it. At the very beginning of a love affair (or a friendship) there is the
excitement of discovering one another. At that point, it is easy to love and care for your
partner. The reason is that the ego's influence is minimal, because love
is so powerful and strong. However, with time the initial energy of new love
mellows, and the ego waits patiently to move in at the first
sign of weakness.
There is a
massive spiritual awakening taking place on planet Earth today. Because of it,
"aware" partners will bond under the influence of this new
energy, and their relationships will have a sense
of honor and sacredness to them.
Expectations, ownership and control
will be replaced by the freedom to be oneself. Clinging, insecurity,
dependency, needs, and jealousy will be replaced by trust, acceptance, and
the development of one's spiritual self. Guilt and anger will be replaced
by the happiness and inner peace we develop within ourselves, and then
share with another. And that is how best friend partnerships will evolve.
adults today, who have been hurt by the experience of divorce, have
taken a different approach to partnering. In the beginning of a potential
relationship, the two will "hang" with one another to see if
they can be good friends. Then, if their friendship blossoms, they will
"date" and see where that leads to, always mindful that the
friendship has to strengthen with the ripeness of time. This is a much
healthier path towards soul-to-soul
Most importantly, the
successful couples of today and tomorrow - the ones who find joy and
fulfillment through a mutual nurturing of each other's spiritual growth -
will be the new Aquarian partners. They will set the standards for others
and their children. Through the ripeness of time, and all the ups and
downs they walk through with greater love for one another, they will become
the best of friends for having accomplished this together.