term soul mates is often used to mean twin souls; but there is an
important distinction. Twin souls are two sides of the same soul, whereas
group souls, though intimately related, are separate. We have many soul
mates but only one twin soul..."
P. Joudry & M. Pressman, M.D.
can be lovers, parents, siblings, relatives, best friends and other
individuals in our lives who are usually very close to us. As I understand it,
four different kinds of soul mate relationships are possible.
soul mates are two individuals who have come
together during a given lifetime to heal something from a past life or previous lives.
Their relationship with one another can be very profound and loving, or it can
deteriorate into the same negative situation that was created in a previous
life. Another possible outcome is that the karma may only be partially resolved, leaving
both with more work to do during this or some future life together.
All the negative karma
weve incurred during any of our previous lives will eventually be healed
through decisions that are based upon unconditional love and forgiveness. This will
not happen because we are forced to do so as a form of punishment. Rather, our choices to bring
healing will be based upon free will, which we and we alone will make.
This is what the universal law of karma is about. And we will have as many
lives as we need to eventually balance all we have caused others
to feel through fear, anger, hatred, bitterness, jealousy, and other
The second kind of relationship we can choose to experience
with a soul mate is one that involves important life lessons. For example,
during our in-between life stay, we might plan to have a relationship with
another while in physical body that would teach us the value of patience,
forgiveness, tolerance, openness, acceptance, honor or another personal
behavior that would foster our inner growth and spiritual awareness. Keep in
mind that it could take many lifetimes to appreciate the importance of such
qualities, and even more to make them a permanent part of our human nature.
The third type of soul mate partnership between a man and woman has been generally
referred to as a "companion"
relationship. These are
individuals who join together in a bond of deep love to work on a project together. This
might involve the formation of a spiritual center or the creation of
an art gallery. Or perhaps the couple will compose music during a prolonged
The decision to accomplish a project through this kind of
union was made by the two individuals
prior to entering the earth plane. And their choice to do so was arrived at
type of partnership may endure for part or all of a lifetime. Having made
plans for their coupling prior to entering the Earth plane, the intent may
have been for healing karma, for experiencing life lessons that come from
partnership, or both. And life-plan
contracts, made with spiritual growth in mind, always override man-made
laws or religious dogmas.
The fourth soulmate relationship we almost always have is a
close friendship or relationship with a relative. We join such individuals
while in physical body simply to enjoy their love, company and energy. Not
surprisingly, these individuals have been part of our previous lifetime
experiences on many occasions.
It is very important to keep in mind that all soul mate relationships help us to
remember who we really are, return us to God-centeredness and prepare us
spiritually for the eventual reunion with our
twin. As such, they can be extremely valuable and should be honored and respected for
very blessed reasons.
A dramatically different kind of relationship exists that is considered to be the most profound and
compelling of all. This is the twin soul
or twin flame union that will eventually transcend all others.
However, because it is so highly charged with energy, the two individuals must be
spiritually ready for it to last any meaningful length of time. When fully prepared, this
union is meant to endure for eternity, because of its relationship to the ultimate ONEness
we will all seek with our Source.
It is important to realize that any relationship you may now be having,
whether it be soul mate or twin-soul, has the potential to be a glorious, fulfilling,
extremely loving and very rewarding one, assuming that is what both individuals are
The coming together of twin souls does not guarantee fulfillment any more than a soul mate
relationship might bring. What increases the chance for lasting twin reunion
is that the two twins must be spiritually prepared for their relationship and then constantly find
ways to make it work on that basis. The key ingredient is unconditional, unselfish love
and the desire to base the union on a spiritual rather than a ego-based foundation.
Only spiritually mature couples can deal with the influence of the ego in
relationships. And that is a major reason for their
Always remind yourself that all relationships have a
higher purpose. God created them to inspire us to understand and remember who we really are. After all, if you had no one to relate to, how
could you know yourself? That is why all relationships are sacred.
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