What is soul-to-soul intimacy?
Is such a thing possible in relationships? Does your soul even want
to become intimate with the soul of another? If someone asked me these
questions years ago, I would have struggled a great deal to find an
intelligent answer for any of them.
In order to answer to these
kinds of questions, one has
to begin understanding what unconditional love is all about, and how
that relates to your soul's cosmic journey.
How important is
intimacy when it comes to relationships? It's not just important, it's
crucial, especially as the Age of Aquarius begins to influence our everyday lives, the choices we make, and the partnerships we
enter into during this lifetime.
Aquarius inspires self-discovery, harmony, peace,
forgiveness, openness, honesty, the freedom to be ourselves, friendship, and most importantly, true love. We will
not be able to participate in meaningful partnerships very well during the
New Age, this lifetime or
next, unless we learn to relate to one another on a soul-to-soul basis.
In order to appreciate
the profoundness of soul-to-soul contact, one needs to have an idea
of what the soul is about. The origin of your
soul can be traced back to the moment God decided to create us for a very
specific purpose, all of which was based upon unconditional love.
physical universe ever existed we were in the Absolute with God, where
there was nothing but ultimate bliss and happiness. However, two things
were missing: experience and feeling. Ancient wisdom and more recent
teachings tell us that in the
Absolute we (and God) could only know things. For example, we knew what love was about, but we couldn't feel or
In the Absolute, there
were no opposites. There were no conflicts, contrasts, or comparisons.
All was the purest peace, joy, and harmony imaginable.
However, we (and God) wanted to have experiences, and the feelings they
created for us. After all, that is where the fun is.
God created the
physical universe in which there are opposites for everything. For cold
there is heat, for light there is darkness, for joy there is sorrow, for
health there is sickness, for anger there is forgiveness, for love there is fear, for male there is
female, and so on. Our souls then left the Absolute as extensions or
fragments of God.
Since that time, each
of our souls is constantly trying to become more and more God-like. It
can't accomplish that without feeling. And one of the most powerful ways to have
feeling is through relationships, especially the romantic kind.
Within each and
every romantic relationship is the opportunity to decide who we really are
and who we really want to be. The choices we make determine the way we
wish to be with another. We can evolve towards unconditional love in
partnership, which is our true divine journey, or we can let our
judgmental egos get in the way causing us to make lesser choices.
Unconditional love in
our partnerships allows us to be free, and to be ourselves just the way
freedom also means that you can share your most intimate thoughts and
feelings with your partner without fear of disapproval or retribution in any
you imagine such a union with another where you can share your deepest feelings no matter how positive
or how embarrassing
they might be?
The word, "embarrassing,"
is key here. In order for your soul to become more and more God-like, it will have to
be, experience, and feel all things throughout its cosmic
adventure. You cannot become unconditional love unless you do so. By that
I mean you will be rich and poor, pretty and not
so pretty, addicted and not addicted, smart and not so smart, good and
not so good, and so on over the course of many lifetimes. And there is
good reason for this.
How could we love a person who is a rapist
unless we had done the same or similar thing? How could we embrace the
alcoholic without judgment unless we have experienced some form of
addiction? How could we have unconditional compassion and forgiveness for a
murderer unless we also have taken another life? How can we have
understanding for someone who might be sexually imbalanced unless we ourselves have gone
through the same experience?
All of this relates to
our ability to be intimate with another.
We are born into each
new life as a sum-total composite of all that we have been in previous lives. Thus,
choices we've made and experiences we've had in the past will influence
our current life. This applies to you and your partner.
If your partner's soul is going to
be and experience all things, and if
your soul has been doing the same through many lifetimes, then what is the basis for
hiding feelings between the two? After all, it is part of the divine plan
for us. Once we realize this, compassionate understanding and soul-to-soul intimacy can
turn any embarrassment into more love, understanding, and support for one another.
This was a very
powerful realization for me. Lord only knows I have my imperfections, but I've
learned to love myself far more than ever before now that I see what my soul is up
Can you imagine two partners who have truly begun to
understand what their souls are trying to accomplish? Once they buy into
the concept that we will be and experience all things, each will have more and more unconditional love for
the other and will become best friends.
importantly, they can share their deepest feelings, their deepest fears,
their deepest desires without the fear of being judged, laughed at, or
The net result of all
of this sharing is that there will be far less fear in the union. By
sharing one's deepest feelings soul-to-soul, the couple will raise their relationship to a level
of sacredness and fulfillment rarely seen in traditional partnerships.
will usher in a new standard for Aquarian couples and the whole human family. At times it will take a lot of courage to
go soul-to-soul with another. But that is where we are headed, this
lifetime or next. And when you stop to think about it, that's a wonderful
place to be.