Dark Night of the Soul
Real Life Experiences
Story (from Australia)...
life has been a series of dark nights. Each with it’s own revelations.
Each coinciding with change and growth. As
the dark night periods lasted longer and gained in momentum and strength, I
started questioning why? The major triggers in my life appeared to be with
the birth of my children, or the onset of major change.
With my first child, I had to leave my job, sell my car, change my
identity. Life was ok for a few years and I moved interstate, I started
having very strange experiences. I became paranoid of looking out the window
at night, I started asking what my purpose was, the answer I received being
“to look after the little children.” I had no idea what that meant, I
still don’t. I left 12 months later with an overnight bag. I lost
everything, all my clothes, possessions, even my car. I slept on the couch
at my mother’s for 6 months. A few years later my second child was born
after a relationship that went very wrong.
was a lot of pain and anguish involved. I lost 2 businesses, and moved to
the country. I lived in a caravan without power and water and barely the
basics. The next two years things only got worse, I had no car, and no hope
for a better life. My daughter at 6 months had a life threatening illness
and nearly died, I had a huge ambulance bill to pay and life was a big
struggle. I would wake myself up at night crying. I lost weight and released
my frustration and pain by digging up gardens, so I lost a lot of weight. I
had no heating in winter and eventually I got pneumonia. I was seriously ill
and in extreme pain and I think this was the first time I cried out with all
my heart WHY? Help me God!!
then began moving again. My house was built and things looked good for quite
a while. But negative episodes started happening I felt powerless to stop
it. This lasted for quite some time and at that stage I delved back into
meditation, I learnt crystal healing, I read auras, and things came good
again. I felt like I had found something to fill a void that had been in my
life. At this time I was doing
automatic writings too, with many words of wisdom I mostly ignored. I felt at this time that I had a connection with the stars somehow,
strange lights appeared and that I had some sort of purpose, but it eluded
me. Things were pretty tough financially but still…OK. I decided to
further my studies and I ended up in a relationship at that time. My
daughter then got bacterial meningitis and nearly died on me again. My
daughter took a full six months to be able to walk properly again and I was
under a huge amount of stress with doctor and specialist appointments, it
was confirmed that she was now 90% deaf. It was at this time that I started
getting messages that ‘the birds are coming’ and that I needed to
relationship turned out to be a nightmare and I was stalked and harassed by
this person for a long time. I had been going in and out of depressions all
my life but always seemed to come out of them eventually. The next few years
were ok, I continued my studies. About this time I became a wildlife carer
and then had to deal with the public. I lacked confidence in the extreme,
and I was attacked by other carers who got their noses out of joint. I was a
mess for about 12 months trying to cope, but I hung in because the need was
there, and there were a lot of animals coming in. I learnt some of my
greatest lessons in this time, although it very nearly broke me. As this
started to settle down I started having serious problems with my son.
He caused me extreme stress and pain, which lasted for the next 7
years, my house was broken into, things were stolen and I lived on a
razor’s edge. Many times I would sit out in the yard in the middle of the
night crying and looking to the stars would ask for help, and an end to all
the pain. But things continued to go downhill and I was in a serious
depression that lasted for years. I thought about ending my life on many
occasions to escape, but I had responsibilities.
then met the love of my life. It was like all my prayers had been answered
and finally I was the happiest I had ever been. I then found I was pregnant
and he didn’t want to be involved with a young child at that stage in
life. So that was that. I was shattered to the core. I had never felt the
intensity of pain, and was in denial right up until I had my second
daughter, and then for at least another year. I had a C section and while in
hospital was overloaded with the drip. I bloated up like a balloon and
hadn’t eaten in four days. I came out of hospital too early not in good
shape. I suddenly had a huge physical release, a total liver cleanse, with
severe night sweats as my liver burned up all the toxins/anger. This just
exploded into a huge emotional release that overwhelmed me. I cried for a
month non stop. I cried for a year. My pain was so great and so unending I
almost lost touch with reality. I clung onto my studies to find some sense
of self worth and purpose to my life, but even this was crumbling. I had
experienced unconditional love for once in my life, yet it was so short
lived, and taken from me. My young daughter was the blessing I received to
fill that void. In those darkest hours I cried and asked over and over why,
help me find love, help me find peace, help me stop the pain, over and over.
Nothing happened, I was in despair so great. Financially things only got
worse, my son was causing great strife, I stopped looking after myself and
went downhill physically and mentally. This was the most difficult time of
then went through a period of stagnation, where I started doubting my
studies. I had this feeling that it was a journey but not the destination. I
started looking at my whole life. I realized that I could not accept
unconditional love, because I didn’t love myself. Although I knew this,
being applied to a real situation seemed to hit home. I asked for guidance
in how to love myself while everything in my life that had some meaning to
me seemed to be slipping away. Material things just lost my interest,
everything that I had been aiming at suddenly seemed unimportant. I went
into a deep depression again, I began crying a lot for no reason. I became
very tired and needed to sleep so much.
house fell apart, I couldn’t cope with everyday tasks. My son seemed to
finally be getting his life in order and mine was falling apart. The less
interest I had in my surroundings the greater the stress and chaos that
seemed to infiltrate everything. I lost interest in everything in my life
and wanted to be a hermit. I realized I was withdrawing within. This made me
feel guilty. The best way to describe it is that my structure dissolved,
everything I had relied on for my sense of security vanished. I became very
negative. It was like every ounce of light had been taken out of me. I was
truly living the dark side. My daughter is nearly 3 now. I felt I had
stopped. That life had stopped within me. At this time, new teachings began
to emerge in my life. I started taking notice and it kept getting stronger.
still felt I was in no-where-land, lost in my own mind, detached from
reality, detached from the physical. It was frightening, I was lost and I
didn’t know where I was going. At that time I asked again for some
direction, to show me the way, to help me please move out of this, move
anywhere, just move. But yet I stayed and it all intensified. I made a
decision then that I would just go with it. I let go my studies, I just let
it go, maybe I will continue again, I hope so, but right now it doesn’t
matter. I decided to trust the Universe, to allow the light to lead me to my
next step. I handed over my trust that all is in order, regardless of how it
appeared. From that moment I relaxed a bit, the fog was clearing just a
little. Enough to notice help when it was offered, to recognize truth, to
expand my mind even more. I know there are things to do still, and my
resistance is still fairly high, but it’s ok, it will happen I have faith
now, for I have no place to go except to a higher good. I still do the
helped me the most at these times:
greatest thing you can find is someone else who understands what you are
going through and you are not alone. I
decided one day that I had no joy in my life. That joy had deserted me many
years ago. I felt life was meant to be joyful….so how do I get that back?
So I searched my heart and my memory and the greatest joy I had as a young
person was my horse. So I bought another horse.
I look at her now and she represents joy to me. I see her as joy. I
see that I can have joy, once you decide that you are worthy of it…and you
learnt to take each day at a time. This process has a will of it’s own,
you can either go with it, or go against it. If you truly believe that your
highest good is in order then just be. Live in the moment and see what the
next moment brings. This is difficult, to just ‘allow’ but by allowing,
what you need to move on, is allowed in.
your physical world is diminishing and your spiritual world expanding, then
go with that. Explore it. I still
deal with a lot of guilt in this area, but I have no choice that’s just
how it is right now. Tomorrow might be different.
your mind occasionally. My mind is so full of what I could do, what I should
do, that I do nothing. If you haven’t meditated for years like me, then
it’s a good time to get into it. I would like to exercise too, I feel I
need to do that, but I can’t just yet. But it will come.
rid of everything in your life you don’t need, and I mean everything.
Don’t let it sit. Get rid of it immediately. This keeps the flow going.
to God, ask questions, explore…answers do come, in one form or another. At
times I couldn’t see a higher good in it all. To me it was just all
negative. I am still fairly negative at times, and get impatient a lot, but
I have an inner knowing now that what is happening to me must happen. I have
accepted this, so I am beginning to see a positive side.
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