"When you lose sight
of each other as sacred souls on a sacred journey, then you cannot see the purpose, the
reason, behind all relationships."
"Conversations With God" (Book I)
by Neal Donald Walsch
Is it possible to have a spiritual love affair with someone? What kind of
relationship is it? Would it be dull and boring or could it go beyond anything we have
experienced before? How can it be passionate and exciting? How will it differ from the
romance you've experienced in the past? Is it possible for sexuality
within that partnership to be exciting and sacred?
I am convinced that all romantic relationships will best be served when they are nourished
and sustained with spiritual insights and principals. Unfortunately ego and
fear driven beliefs have tainted romantic couplings for thousands of years
and they no longer work.
partnerships have been weakened and
needs, expectations, wants, clinging, insecurities, control,
jealousies, and other
ego-based imperfections for ages. Today's divorce rate of 50% says it all.
And, of those couples who remain together or married, how many continue to
experience a healthy sense of meaning and fulfillment in their
Listed below are some thoughts that may cause you to think and wonder about how you might
enter into and nurture a spiritual partnership...
The foundation of a spiritual relationship
must be unconditional love for the other.
Unconditional love allows for the freedom
to be who you are, without any pretending.
The spiritual couple understands
their relationship to God,
the rest of humanity
and all living things.
The spiritual couple knows that
their finding one another was no accident. Rather it was part of a plan they prepared
before entering the Earth's plane,
reminding each to appreciate
the sacredness of their union.
The spiritual couple always
honors and respects Mother Earth.
The spiritual couple will meditate together
on a regular basis.
Their meditations will become a sacred ritual,
performed daily because they want to. Not because they have to.
The spiritual couple will find the time to
serve humanity in some meaningful way. This will serve to strengthen their union.
Spiritual partners will not rely on the other
to make themselves feel more loving. They will realize that this must begin within themselves.
Spiritual partners take self-responsibility for nurturing the continuation of
love in the partnership, once they have committed themselves to a long-term
Rather than watching television,
the spiritual couple will raise their vibrations
by listening to cosmic music or
watching the planets and stars together.
The spiritual couple will constantly do
things to foster the well-being
of Earth Mother's environment.
Spiritual partners will know exactly what they
want to do with their sexuality. And how they want to use it as an expression of their
passion, joy and love for one another
In a spiritual relationship,
there will be no feelings of guilt about sexuality. The partners will celebrate their love openly
and without shame.
Spiritual partners will know that sexuality
is one of God's gifts to us
to create feelings of divine oneness.
The spiritual couple realizes
that planet Earth's resources are limited
and must be kept in sacred balance. That wisdom will influence
how many children they conceive.
The spiritual couple will become vegetarians
and exercise outdoors, realizing that
a healthy body is essential for
balancing the mind-body-spirit complex.
Spiritual couples will avoid anything that
is grounded in fear, violence or
the exploitation of sex.
Their sexuality will transcend anything
they've experienced in the past, because
the feeling of completeness it produces
will be a reflection and a reminder of their union with God.
Spiritual couples will experience and feel their exchange of sexuality from
all chakra centers rather than the root chakra, which is grounded in
self-gratification and physicality.
Spiritual partners will not care
how their mate
drives the car,
brushes their teeth,
sneezes, talks, dresses, eats or hangs their clothes. Each realizes that such things
are only important to the ego.
The spiritual couple will smudge each other
and their home every day
to ensure that negative energy is released
from their auras and living space.
There will be no control within the
spiritual partnership. Each will simply allow the other
to be who they are.
Being spiritual partners, the couple will feel free to express their deepest thoughts,
without fear of insult or retribution.
The spiritual couple will not be attached
to one another through fear of losing the other.
The spiritual partnership will be free
of fear-based attachments. This will allow for individual freedom
and the building of limitless love.
Spiritual couples will not expect the other to do certain things other than
being one's self.
The spiritual couple will look back on their relationship and feel as though it's been one
Spiritual partners will be the best of spiritual friends and buddies
at a very deep and intimate
level of the soul.
Spiritual partners will talk to their souls
on a regular basis.
Spiritual partners will do their best to base
all of their decisions on love rather than fear.
Spiritual partners will not cling to one another because of insecurities or
because each lacks of strong sense of self.
Ego will have no place in spiritual romance. Such partners realize that it is the relationship
Here are some of my favorite quotes from
chapter eight of Conversations With God, Book I by Neale Donald Walsh. They are meant to
stimulate more thought about bringing spiritual romance into our lives. Keep in mind this
is "God" talking to the author...
"Relationships are constantly challenging;
constantly calling you to create,
express, and experience
higher and higher aspects of yourself,
grander and grander visions of yourself..."
"When human relationships fail...
they fail because they were entered into
for the wrong reason."
"Most people enter into relationships
with an eye toward
what they can get out of them,
rather than what they can put into them."
"There can be only one purpose for relationships...
and for all of life:
to be and decide Who You Really Are."
"The purpose of a relationship is to decide
what part of yourself you'd like
to see 'show up,'
not what part of another you can capture and hold."
"It is very romantic to say
that you were nothing until that special other came along,
but it is not true.
Worse, it puts an incredible pressure
on the other
to be all sorts of things
he or she is not."
"It is very romantic to say that
now that your special other
has entered your life,
you feel complete.
Yet the purpose of relationship
is not to have another who might
but to have another with whom
you might share your completeness."
"Let each person in relationship worry
not about the other,
but only, only, only about Self."
"Yet I tell you this:
your focus upon the other -
your obsession with the other
is what causes relationships to fail."
"If you cannot love your Self,
you cannot love another."
"... You have to prove that you can love them.
To do this, they may ask you to start
altering your behavior...
So, in order to hold onto your love,
they start altering their behavior...
Thus, two people literally
lose themselves in a relationship...
The losing of Self in a relationship
is what causes most of the bitterness
in such couplings."
"The soul has come to the body,
and the body to life,
for the purpose of evolution.
You are evolving, you are becoming.
And you are using your relationship with everything
to decide what you are becoming...
This is the job you came here to do...
Your personal relationships
are the most important
elements in this process."
"Your first relationship, therefore,
must be with your Self.
You must first learn to honor
and cherish and love your Self."
"The first question in any
with another is:
now Who Am I, and Who Do I Want To Be,
in relationship to that?"
I wish you and your partner many
blessings in your spiritual romance with one another.
May the Light guide both of you to the highest good that can be achieved